Some roots run far deeper than the rest.

http://ameliaclaire.com/collections/the-flexx?wc-ajax=get_refreshed_fragments Before we were aware of the existential concerns of this world, someone loved us for who we are and whomever we are to become, unconditionally. There is nothing in the world more amazing than this, yet most of us spend our lives seeking something more.

her comment is here Many years before I realized I had a self and felt the pain of something truly important that was lost, my Grandfather took me to a fishing tank on his farm. He patiently instructed me on how to create an angle with a fishing pole and the line connecting its lure, to cast toward a special spot where he guaranteed a fish was anxious to accept the enticement.

Bryan Nathaniel Luther died 12-16-1989, 25 years to the day before the birth of my son, Jackson Bryan Luther

Despite this prophetically accurate prognostication, my heart leapt with surprise and my senses exploded when I saw the water swirl and felt the violent pull against the unfamiliar instrument in my hand. Once I had fought and landed the fish, a largemouth bass no bigger than 2 lbs., but which looked considerably larger through my young eyes, Granddaddy carefully removed the hook and released the fish back into the water.

As the fish disappeared into the murky depths, my Grandfather said, “He’ll grow bigger by the time you come back. One day, he may be a world record.”

I later learned that my Grandfather not only stocked the tank with fish, but he also regularly tossed feed into the water at the very spot where he told me to cast.

Was it a rigged game? Sure. But in a short time, my Grandfather stopped feeding the fish, and soon enough I learned the truth about fishing. More often than not, immense patience and dogged persistence are required to entice fish to take your offering. There are no guarantees of a catch, even in the most special of spots.

Through the periods of patience and persistence required for fishing, there is time. Time for anglers to connect with ourselves, with one another and with nature.

During those times with my Grandfather, I learned that some of life’s most deeply meaningful experiences occur when you’re waiting for something else to happen. These memories are deeply rooted in my soul, serving as a touchstone during times when my priorities and perspective on life become distorted.

The biggest con job of all time is that we must be something, or achieve something, or acquire something. I suppose this is why I was drawn to bring my two children, Grace and Jackson, on a 1,200 mile road trip from Florida to Tennessee to see this place.

Never mind that the farm now belongs to folks who don’t answer a knock at the door. Never mind the once-pristine grounds are now overgrown with kudzu and overrun with dogs of questionable temperament. And never mind that this special fishing spot, which in my dreams still holds a world-record largemouth bass, likely hasn’t held a fish in two decades.

I guess I needed Gracie and Jack to know that some places, no matter how far back they reach in our journey, are worth exploring again; that while special people in our lives may be taken from us far too soon, the time and love they invested in us lives on; and that one day, they may retrace their deepest roots and discover that what’s most important in life is not the something they’ve been relentlessly pursuing, but rather the thing they had all along.